Unbelievable what some people will do.
The pain of loss is intense and can leave lasting, sometimes permanent, scars. So much of our self-image can consist of what other people think of us that when two people part ways, it is often devastating. In times like this it is only natural to turn to someone for help. Some people take solace in friends and family to reassure themselves of their own self-worth; others to therapists to help them stand on their own. These ways of dealing with pain are good and healthy, because they do just that, they deal with it. Some people turn to drugs, alcohol, and other distractions, not to mitigate the pain, but rather to forget it ever existed. This is a stopgap at best, and it often ruins more of their lives, degrading their confidence even more. And then there are peope to which the above article refers, those who try and ignore the pain by whitewashing the future with false promises that shine so brightly they blind them. It is tempting, I will grant you, but it does more harm than good, because putting off the pain only makes it hurt more.
The people who run these establishments prey on the insecurities of everyoe who comes in the door, offering them false hope and promises that can only be kept through the most random of chances. They are predators who decieve their victims through something called "cold reading" a technique that lets a skilled predator pick up on nonverbal cues and responses to questions that give the person a view into the victim's personality and desires. They use this knowledge to fabricate a story that includes everything the victim could want, including the obligitory fairy-tale ending. It take a very clearheaded person to disbelieve something so tailormade for them that is delivered with such certainty.
Thisscenario plays out far too often, all across the world. charlatains know no borders, no ethnicities, and all to often, no limits. This will not stop until people learn to respect one another and not look out only for themselves. Unfortunately, the very concept of society seems to mean excluding everyone else and dehumanizing them, so I don't see hope for this anytime soon. So until then, be aware of what is happening in your friends' and family's lives, let them know you are there for them, and dn't let them face despair alone. I know that kindness and compassion is a lot to ask, but it's easier if you start close to home.
The pain of loss is intense and can leave lasting, sometimes permanent, scars. So much of our self-image can consist of what other people think of us that when two people part ways, it is often devastating. In times like this it is only natural to turn to someone for help. Some people take solace in friends and family to reassure themselves of their own self-worth; others to therapists to help them stand on their own. These ways of dealing with pain are good and healthy, because they do just that, they deal with it. Some people turn to drugs, alcohol, and other distractions, not to mitigate the pain, but rather to forget it ever existed. This is a stopgap at best, and it often ruins more of their lives, degrading their confidence even more. And then there are peope to which the above article refers, those who try and ignore the pain by whitewashing the future with false promises that shine so brightly they blind them. It is tempting, I will grant you, but it does more harm than good, because putting off the pain only makes it hurt more.
The people who run these establishments prey on the insecurities of everyoe who comes in the door, offering them false hope and promises that can only be kept through the most random of chances. They are predators who decieve their victims through something called "cold reading" a technique that lets a skilled predator pick up on nonverbal cues and responses to questions that give the person a view into the victim's personality and desires. They use this knowledge to fabricate a story that includes everything the victim could want, including the obligitory fairy-tale ending. It take a very clearheaded person to disbelieve something so tailormade for them that is delivered with such certainty.
Thisscenario plays out far too often, all across the world. charlatains know no borders, no ethnicities, and all to often, no limits. This will not stop until people learn to respect one another and not look out only for themselves. Unfortunately, the very concept of society seems to mean excluding everyone else and dehumanizing them, so I don't see hope for this anytime soon. So until then, be aware of what is happening in your friends' and family's lives, let them know you are there for them, and dn't let them face despair alone. I know that kindness and compassion is a lot to ask, but it's easier if you start close to home.
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